Hello all!
As many of u are probably aware by now, my blog is not the blog to read if you’re looking for an intelligent political or economic debate.
no matter how bad a parent he or she may be, they’re still parents and parents know best, so we should all just shut up and be grateful for the wisdom they bestow upon us. After all, their time is precious, isn’t it?
But in the meantime, we kids have grown up a little and have realised certain truths about bad parents that don’t necessarily agree with us.
Our allowances suck, they don’t answer our calls but get upset if we don’t answer theirs.
We invite them to events that are important to us and they shut us up by saying they’ll be there but cancel at the last minute and expect us to understand.
Parents can get very busy, you see, and we’re just kids so we shouldn’t give them too much hassle, even if they do fall asleep at our parent-teacher association meetings.
Actually wait, now that I think about it, there is no excuse for bad parenting. But we put up with it anyway, and why?
Why do we do that? Is it because we’re afraid? Afraid of what? Being punished? Getting canned?
Maybe, but that doesn’t make much sense either, because that never stopped us from making waves in classrooms back at school.
We, sometimes, misbehavee knowing that we’d get punished for it. We played truant, gave school the bird, and went off to malls, knowing full well that there would be hell to pay if we got caught.
But we did it anyway. Yes, we did. And gosh, did we feel cool! So what’s happened? Where’s our guts? Our edge, that burning desire to live our lives our way despite how the rules tell us we should live it?
Could it be because we can no longer tell the difference between rules that exist to protect us, and rules that exist to restrict us. Think about it, why do rules exist?
Take a moment to think about the rules you find at a swimming pool. Then, take another moment to think about the rules you find at a five-star restaurant. Between the two, which makes more sense?
A rule that tells you not to play in the deep end? Or a puke that threatens to not serve you if your shirt doesn’t have a collar?
i’m talking about bad parents, but at the same time, i’m not.
And that’s about as big a hint as I’m going to give you, because we live in a society of rules. And it is our duty not as Malaysians, but as human beings to decide for ourselves, what rules exist for us and what rules exist for others.
But i suppose you could argue that such thinking can also lead to anarchy and it can, and that in itself is as dangerous as bad parenting. But anarchy arises from a need to be heard.
What justification can bad parenting claim? Don’t misunderstand me, i’m not saying that we should start a fight, because rarely has there been a fight that has resulted in anything good.
I try not to get into fights or arguements and there’s a good reason for that- because I’ve grown up. I believe we’re all nature enough, and no longer be the directionless children we used to be.
We’ve evolved.
It’s necessary to question our parents, because I’ve come to learn over the years that sometimes, our parents are just as frustrated and confused as we are.
They never intended to be bad parents, or to push us away or to restrict us from being ourselves. It just turned out that way.
Just as we didn’t grow up intending to hate those above us, those with power to dictate what we can see or say or think or do.
It was never meant to be this way, and for that reason alone, we must be understanding of the dilemmas we face as children, as adults and most importantly, as parents.
I don’t know for sure, if any of this makes sense. Maybe some of it does and if that’s the case, then great. Take what little of it makes sense to you and use it.
But use it wisely, because we only get one shot at it, and it lasts our whole lives. Does that make sense? You tell me.
i know this may be just crapy to some of you. But this was what i thought. Thanks for reading and yes Ryan’s still a weirdo! Haha!
xoxo
Ameera
wat did ryan have to do with that
Hey!
ryan has nothing got to do with it… I was just teasing him like i always do
Well well, interesting thoughts you got there.
About the title of all this.
How can we decide, judge or know what’s good and bad anyway?
We live in a dimension where duality exists but isn’t it some kind of illusion?
I mean, what some people see as good, are seen by others as bad.
So is there anything that is either good or bad?
It’s just a point of view…..and to look more detailed at it, one can’t exist without the other.
It’s a unit…..
Rules, some say rules are there to be broken.
Well, I could complain about a lot of rules that exist but also be glad about a few.
Rules, for example some of 5 Star Restaurants, who most likely wouldn’t let a hobo in (even though the Hobo might have all the money for some reason and wants to eat at least once in his life, some awesome meal) are just pathetic!
What’s so wrong with that customer’s wish.
Why don’t they grant it..
It’s just another human being..
I mean as long he doesn’t harm anyone, it’s all fine and that’s an important point! -> The humanity needs to stop hating each other.
Everything would be so much better right then….
If the humanity wasn’t so cruel, then there wouldn’t be a need for some stupid laws for example: “16 year olds are not to be allowed to be outside anymore after midnight.”
Why? I assume because at night there’s usually more crime and so on.
So 16 year olds are stuck until they are older…….and can’t see the world after Midnight except they break the rule or if a parentship is with them.
If a person in that age and breaks this rule then there’ll be plently of trouble.
Isn’t that pathetic? I think it is..
It robs the freedom..
We are not totaly free, the humanity locks up itself..
Our free will is being pushed away.